14 Habits to Stay Organize

How organized are you? I’ve always known myself to be, or should I say somewhat organized individual. I also know a few people who are also like this and others who are totally opposite and that’s not all, some people can also work in clustered areas and perform well. Which one of these are you?

I am not the perfect organizer but I love the fact that there is always room for improvement. As such, I would like to share with you some tips you can use to become more organized in your daily routine.

  • Start your day early, perhaps at a time appropriate for you
  • Arrange an area for items so you know where to find them when needed.
  • Routinely declutter your space
  • Spend some time reading
  • Spend some time journaling
  • Make a note of things you often forget to do on a particular day and time. For example, you can use an electronic reminder to notify you.
  • Create a system for your records
  • Always keep a small note pad. It may come in handy
  • Prioritize your tasks
  • Do one task at a time
  • Avoid procrastination
  • Avoid useless time on social media
  • Don’t forget to have breakfast
  • Always have your wardrobe prepared for the week

You have it there. This list is not exhaustive or is it necessary to utilize it in the order in which it was written. Give it a try or ignore it at your own peril.

Your Comfort Zone Maybe Your Danger Zone

What is YOUR comfort zone? A comfort zone is a place where some of us operate using familiar activities, familiar behaviour ane being at ease believing we are in control of our lives.

Most of us spend our time or used to. It is my old stomping ground. The place that made me feel safe and no harm can come to me. Anything unknown, be it another place, an opportunity, would make me quiver and go into protective mode.

I recall, as a young adult I was always willing to be social, but as soon as I encounter a situation that seems foreign to me I would withdraw. A feeling of suspicion coupled with fear would engulf me. I never dare to push boundaries and explore opportunities to achieve and discover the potential that lies within me. As result, I never knew what I was capable of.

It is a dangerous place to be. It is a place that would stagnate your personal growth, hinder your performance, hoard your fear, make you impactless and unfulfilled.

Everything we ever dream of lies on the other side of our comfort zone. Here are some ways to get out of your comfort zone and give yourself what you deserve in this life.

  • Think about the benefits you are receiving from it. If It doesn’t. Get out!
  • Make mental changes that you want something different and go for it.
  • Be prepare to face your fears and whatever was holding you back.
  • Acquire new knowledge. For example, learn a new skill or go back to school.
  • Write down what you want to achieve within a certain time frame.
  • Shift your focus.
  • Be willing to get uncomfortable.
  • Avoid ditching your plans when confronted with elements of frustration.
  • Push yourself on those day you feel like giving up.
  • Take time to reflect.
  • Don’t forget to rest. You’re not a robot.

Getting out of your cocoon isn’t “easy peasy nice and squeezy.” But if you’ve made up your mind and be willing to make the change you will take the leap and escape to a more healthy form of the comfort zone. Until you decide that you want to have a different life for yourself, only then things will change. As Jim Rohn says, “For things to change you have to change.” Everything depends on you.

Let Go So You Can Grow

What does it mean to let go? It is detaching yourself from things that are unpleasant and harmful to your emotions and thoughts and generally your well-being. It is when you release yourself gradually or suddenly from a situation or relations.

Letting go can also mean, letting go of our mistakes, our failures and our frustration. Allowing that negative feeling can affect our lives and cloud our judgement and vision. We cling to them and wear them like badges on our sleeves as if they empower us.

When we respond to these issues by holding on to them they can severely affect our health and our progress in life.

Here are 3 signs it’s time to let go

Sacrificing your true self: If what you are holding on to requires you to engage in activities that compromise your beliefs and values, let go. Because in the long run, you will find yourself doing the things you don’t like and making others happy while destroying your own happiness.

You feel worthless: You’re trying to help and please everyone. Yet you feel underappreciated and undervalued. When you realize that you aren’t even honoured and respected and have expended all your energies. Do yourself a favour and stop.

You have no connection to what you’re doing: You have lost interest in what you are involved in. Whether it’s a job, relationship; do not cling to things and people that are holding you back and draining the life out of you.

3 benefits of letting go

Improved mental health: Letting go means you choose to lay aside the burden to feel lighter and put yourself first. This can mean less stress for you and you are being kind to yourself.

Letting go improves future relationships: Whenever you find yourself in a situation that isn’t beneficial to you and not adding value to your life, leaving won’t be so hard since you have already been in the same situation and know how to take on the challenge.

Improved self-esteem: You will love and respect yourself. You won’t criticize yourself for doing things that you don’t want to do. You will develop more confidence in your own decision making and be able to establish your purpose.

Letting go is never easy but is always possible if you decide that you don’t want to be in that job that is serving you no good or that relationship that is weighing you down and frustrates you. Once you let go before you know it, weeks and months will have passed. Don’t grieve for what is wrong. Have the courage to be fearless to do what is right in your interest and self-development.

The Fear Trap: Why I Took So Long to Start My Blog

Five to ten years ago I attempted to start a blog on here and another one on Blogger and Medium. The farthest I got is opening the account. I ran afterwards. Well, in my mind I felt as though I was literally running.

I was scared. I felt as though people were watching me. So many things were going through my mind. I ask myself “are you ready for this?”, “people will know it’s you”, “are you sure you want others to see what you are writing?”, “they will mock you”, “don’t do this girl.” “you’re not ready for this,” “it doesn’t even sound right.” These were the thoughts that flooded my mind.

I was excited about blogging. I had the energy and all but no willpower to push past my fears so I put it off for another time. Not sure if this was procrastination or completely fear or a bit of both.

Many more attempts to continue was futile. And other times all I did was think about it and imagine how lovely it would be for me to be blogging, but I never made any attempt to write because the fear I felt destroyed my prospect to blog. Fear is something that holds many people back. This has been one of my biggest enemies. So much time has passed and I have managed to grow beyond that.

After I decided to change my life there were a few things I needed to deal with. When I started to work on myself my go-to fixer was meditation. By meditating I was able to train my mind to stay in the present. That in turn has enabled me to notice fearful thoughts and feelings when it comes, and so by constantly practising this method, has allowed me to stay with the feeling of fear and identify it and understand what it’s trying to reveal to me instead of leaving it unattended. Meditation has taught me that fear is an emotion trap deep inside of us. and if not dealt with can cripple our chances for so many things in life.

Over the past few months, I have grown a lot. And I said that to say this. One morning I woke up and got out of bed and turn on my laptop while telling myself “today I am starting my blog” I never thought about exploring the best platform for writing. I head to google and typed “wordpress.com.” and as they say, the rest is history.

We have to want to be better to get better, and to be better requires us to work on ourselves. That’s where we all should start. I started and I am still a work in progress and I can only hope to become the best of me. And now, don’t forget to read my recent posts. Comment and share

“Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less.”

Marie Curie

The “second mind”: Developing and Strengthening Your Intuition

How many of you need a scientist to tell you what is intuition? If you are what I use to be you might say no. You’ll say this of course, out of ignorance. I hardly knew it more or less follow it. The age of stupidity. It is what I once you as a “second mind” but never paid attention and as a consequence, many times ended up with results I never wanted.

Our intuition is that sense of knowing the right decisions or whatever it may be, prior to doing it. That gut feeling that we may ignore so many times.

How do we develop our intuition?

While some may value the ability to make quick decisions others take time to deliberate and reflect. Then there are those who have no idea and some may be doubtful. But one of the things I’ve learned is to practice awareness – be present. This helps us to build our confidence and embrace that gut feeling. This was my hardest lesson. But following our intuition is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves. How do you develop this thing called intuition? The interaction of the subconscious and the conscious mind.

I will share with you two of the most effective ways I have learned to develop my intuition.

Being aware is key. This is being conscious, or the ability to perceive. When you are among your associates practice listening intently. Hear what they are trying to convey, don’t judge. See the conversation as an opportunity to learn, look for the non-verbals, and find the hidden meaning. Try not to be paranoid or overthink what is being said. Don’t be afraid to ask questions. The more you know the fewer assumptions you’ll make and you will be able to see for yourself. When you are alone sit quietly and listen to your body – don’t think about anything just focus on yourself. Take deep breaths. This in particular is meditative and have become one of my go-to daily practice.

Next, absorb yourself in books that are relevant. This will help to strengthen your ability to pay attention to what is happening around you. Your brain is never tired of new information. It increases your understanding and works well when you are in listening mode. You will gain more knowledge, and when this knowledge is applied can reduce your misperception of others and their behaviour. Try not to skim pages when reading instead, read and re-read for a better understanding, this will also increase your ability to concentrate. Reading makes you think and feel. This will serve you well when you’re in your circles and enhance your relationships with others.

“Everyone who wills can hear the inner voice. It is within everyone.

Mahatma Ghandi

I’d suggest that you try other exercises that work for you and you are comfortable with. There are so many more to this. Perhaps you can work with groups if you desire. However, working on yourself by yourself sometimes can bring you so much more satisfaction and joy.