6 Master Approach to Reinventing Yourself

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As I mentioned in my previous post I have been in a place where I was thrust to make a shift. At that time I knew what was going through my mind was nothing new and I realized I had those thoughts in my head before. However, I have always ignored it – at my own peril of course, for various reasons, but this time I couldn’t escape it. It was sudden and right away I was taken aback. I knew – as a matter of fact, I felt compelled to make the next move. I had no qualms about it. I was mentally prepared but lack awareness. This was the beginning of reinventing my life. One thing for sure even though I was at my lowest I never panic. Instead, I took the opportunity to reassess and change the direction my life was going.

I decided I’m going to take control of my life and do myself a favour, by improving myself and becoming successful on my own terms. I’m not done with myself yet. I am still a work in progress. Creating this blog was one part of my life-changing move.

I’d like to share with you 6 strategies for reinventing your life.

Ask yourself if you are ready for a reinvention

Sometimes people change because others are changing. They also change because they want to change and is looking for something more meaningful in life. But the question is: Are they really ready for a change?

I believe real change can only take place when you are ready whether you realize it or not. By that, I meant sometimes you are ready for a change and you’re not aware when it comes, because of its suddenness, but as soon as you realize it you go right into action because it’s what you were waiting for. It is important that you are ready for a change by being mentally prepared aware; and what your ambitions are. Otherwise, you run the risk of quitting or moving in the wrong direction.

Educate yourself

What does this mean? It is to prepare or expand your knowledge in a particular field of study. That can be so many things. You have a lot to choose from. Develop a reading habit (if you have none), listen to the podcast or perhaps go back to school. Educate yourself in order to acuminate your critical thinking skills.

No matter what form the education takes it will benefit you on your self-improvement journey. It will enable you to improve your life in many ways. Such as the ability to socialize with diverse groups, increase your productivity, opportunities, live a satisfactory life; education will benefit you and the society you live in. You must also be educated about yourself. Learning about your weaknesses and strengths. The satisfaction of knowing who you are and the need to learn where and what you want to become is the foundation for achieving your goals.

Decide who you want to become

This isn’t a goal. You are whoever you choose to become. The environment you dwell in also determines who you aspire to be. That is the first change to be made. Examine your interest. What do you enjoy doing? The power to decide who you want to become lies within you. Isn’t that liberating? Never abdicate control because of the fear of losing. Otherwise, one day you’ll wake and realize you’re living someone else’s life. As the saying goes “If you don’t plan your life someone else will do it for you.” Is that correct?

Set boundaries

Setting boundaries will demonstrate what you expect from yourself and others. Personal boundaries are established to protect yourself from machiavellian and unscrupulous personalities. It also allows you to save mental and physical and emotional energies. Recognizing and reinforcing limits help to protect your self-esteem and enjoy normal and healthy relationships on your reinvention journey.

Selfcare

This can be just what it is. Ranging from taking care of your mental and emotional health to socializing. Yes. “No man is an island.” Selfcare is a broad concept that encompasses hygiene, the kind of food you consume, your lifestyle, and socio-economic factors such as your beliefs. Self-care is important to maintaining healthy relationships among your peers and with yourself. Selfcare is a part of your personal development and promotes a healthy lifestyle.

Re-evaluate

There are times when you won’t achieve a goal that you’ve set at a given time. Life changes all the time and so does your goals. What was the goal you set prior to the pandemic? Do you still want? Why? Re-evaluating is one of the best methods to re-inventing your life.

Being honest with yourself is part of the process that may not apply to everyone but it’s very important. Ultimately, you should spend time reflecting on what you did throughout the day. Consequently, you should use a daily planner for effective results. Question what you were unable to accomplish and acknowledge what was accomplished. Practice meditation and prioritize what is realistic and achievable. This will help you to stay focus. Anything you have been putting off try getting it done. Stop procrastinating. Check on yourself at the end of the day. How are you feeling? What have you achieved? Make a note of your answers.

Remove mental blockages that’s holding you back from achieving your goals. Once you have set your goal review the areas of your life and juxtapose your current state with what you have envisioned. Try to figure out what is holding you back from achieving those goals that seem unsurmountable. You can even write them down. Next, change your story and free yourself from the barrier that was created between where you are and where you have your intention. Eliminate excuses you’ve made in the past.

Sometimes all it takes is to realize the story you’ve been telling yourself is a lie.

“We are always one decision away from a totally different life.”

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Reinventing Yourself

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What would it mean to you if you dared to dream and live your dream?

Imagine how it would feel being a different person, in a different place. Living the life you always dreamed of. Walking and breathing your new life. The life you once thought was impossible and only some can attain. The life you once waited for, is here but only here because you decided to wake up and let it happen.

“The future belongs to those who believes in the beauty of their dreams.”

Eleanor Roosevelt

What does it mean to reinvent yourself? Each time you experience a change in your life – marriage, new job, relocation, or hit rock bottom, you must choose who you want to be otherwise you will never amount to anything. How many times have you reinvented yourself in your life? Sometimes circumstances force you to take control of your lives – your future. And if at that time you are not ready or conscious of what is happening we can easily fall back in our comfort zone and walk towards the darkness.

A few years ago I was thrust into a journey of reinventing myself. When I had no job and had just broken off a relationship. I decided to make a shift One of the hardest periods of my life. But I did it anyway. This crisis was sudden. However, it was the start of new things to come. When I made the decision to change, it was one that I was thinking about for a couple of years prior, but never follow through instead it creep up on me without notice. This partial story is familiar with so many others out there. What’s yours?

Many people believe change is daunting but it doesn’t have to be that way. Reinvention isn’t throwing out the things you consider no good – it’s choosing one thing over another, that is new and beneficial to your growth and development.

Do you know when a change is needed in your life? How do you know what to look for?

How do you recognize it’s time to reinvent yourself

Reinventing yourself is one of the greatest thing you can epitomize the changes occurring in your life. If you’re not sure or ready for this process or just afraid that it will rob you of the individual you are comfortable with being because it’s not the right time.

Reinvention evokes many questions in our minds. Questions such as …

Am I ready for this?

Am I brave enough to follow through?

What will people think about me?

Reinvention does not always announce it’s time for a change. It can come suddenly on you or gradually creep up on you. The latter happens when you have no plans and no intentions. And the former may happen when you ignore the signs that were given.

When you do things with intentions it will lead to change and sometimes it is unrecognizable.

Listen, when you surround yourself with meaningless relationships you will have shallow connections that you won’t be able to turn to when you need a form of support. And if that doesn’t open your eyes you will be compelled to alter the relationships around you. When you find you are lacking in an area that is crucial to your development this is when you need to align yourself with the right people. If you are working in a certain area and have been trying hard to achieve a goal and it’s not working then ask yourself “Is this what I really want to do?” “Am I willing to keep trying and failing?” Perhaps you have exhausted your options and don’t know what to do. This is time to make a change.

Reinventing yourselves is a vital aspect of personal development. When you change your lives, you reflect new beliefs, habits, friendships and routines. It is focusing on the good. Decluttering, physically, emotionally and mentally. Even a diet. Yes! Eating healthy. It’s like a snake shedding its skin. but a little twist because you change from the inside out allowing for a complete transformation.

What prevents you from changing

Change is all around us happening constantly. It’s a natural part of life. Changing your life doesn’t come easily. How do you deal with changes? Change is always difficult especially when you’re tied to habits, lifestyle, a place or people who you have to leave behind. It scares you and makes you feel powerless.

People are naturally inclined to find security in the familiar. Launching into the unknown is scary. The uncertainty about the impact, especially the impact of the decision to form new friends and relocate.

Resisting change can be bad for your life particularly in the face of personal development. Resisting change is creating your own barrier to self-growth. See more in the video below regarding change.

Change is challenging and avoiding it will only cause you to miss opportunities. Opportunities that may never come again. Choose to make that change. If the change is caused by external factors such as a pandemic or death we may feel helpless, otherwise, we might be able to control the outcome.

Is a Daily Planner Worth It

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How do you organize yourself daily? Do you manage your time effectively? How much of your plan are you able to follow through with? Do you have a written plan or do you make mental notes?

For as long as I can remember, I used to keep a mental plan about my daily activities. It never went well. Some days I forgot everything. That was a horrible way for me to organize myself. An ineffective and weak strategy, thinking that was the way I can accomplish things.

Eventually, I’ve come to realize that by not having a daily planner I run the risk of mismanaging my time and decreasing my ability to achieve my objectives and ultimately being unproductive.

I have discovered the importance of a daily planner and its effectiveness to achieve the best results in creating a personal growth and development plan for my life. Ever since it has been a supportive personal assistant helping me to identify the kind of person I want to become, and the skills I need to attain my goals. At the end of the day, I”m able to reflect on what was accomplished and areas for improvement, and things that I need to prioritise and reassess.

Daily Planner – Meaning and its Importance

A daily planner by definition is a personal organizer designed to help chart your day – every day. It allows you to schedule tasks, appointments, errands and activities. By doing this, you’re able to understand what has to be done, when it has to be done and ensure you have adequate time to do everything on your list.

A daily planner is essential to creating a balanced life. It gives you the opportunity to separate time for work and time for everything. These things can range from walking up in the morning to walking your dog to visiting your friends. Developing a daily plan helps you to identify goals for your life through analyzing in order to form a vision.

A Daily Planner as a Personal Development tool

Many areas in personal development consist of activities that give rise to a person’s goals and aspirations. Incorporating self-improvement into your daily routine, making notes and planning how you’re going to work towards achieving your goals.

Personal development is a lifelong process. However, having a daily planner helps to assess your strategies and approach towards self-development. Whether it’s improving your diet, learning a new language, meditating, learning a new skill or working on your social and emotional development, a daily planner is perfect for devising your routine and allocating time in your day to day life, to improve and assess your goals and building qualities to achieve your potentials.

Below I share with you 6 benefits of a daily planner.

It Enhances your productivity

What motivates you to put in the extra work and get things done according to your desire? Is it a glass of wine? Coffee? Or the thought of accomplishments or even the love for your aspiration?

Do you enjoy multitasking or do you prefer focusing on one thing at a time? The former is known among people who want to fulfil more than one commitment at once. because of an urgent need to do so or perhaps it is their way of getting things done. How efficient is this mode of work? Have you ever tried it? How did it go? Perhaps you did, only to realize that you haven’t accomplished anything. Using a daily planner will help you to devote specific time to each task for the purpose of achieving your goals satisfactorily.

Maintain an effective schedule

Using a daily planner will help you stay in control of your day to day activities. Making notes of all your dreams and how you’re going to approach them each day is an effective way of recalling what you’re obligated to do. A daily planner is a perfect organizer that will generate a feeling of satisfaction and accomplishment. I believe this should be your ultimate goal.

Focus on the important task

With a daily planner, you can prioritize important tasks and appointments. Sometimes responsibilities can become overwhelming. However, by using a daily planner you’ll be able to keep your activities in a space that you can manage and monitor effectively.

Being mindful

Focus is one of the keywords to achieving one’s goal. It gives you the opportunity to immerse yourself in strategies that you’ve planned, to develop yourself. Being mindful help you to maintain an awareness of your responsibilities to yourself.

If you are determined to achieve your goals, attention is required with a purpose to focus on your objectives.

Keep track of progress

By adding notes, tasks and activities to your planner you are more likely to fulfil your duties to yourself. Since each item is scheduled you are aware of how your time is allotted and therefore makes all your activities much easier to attain.

You feel a sense of accomplishment

Having planned your daily routine means you’re less likely to forget things that are important and less stressful, and improved productivity. That’s right. You get more done each day. And who doesn’t love the feeling of achievement? I do. Do you?

“Plan your work for today and everyday, then work your plan.”

Margaret Thatcher

You are more likely to be successful at your endeavours if you have a clear plan of set goals than if you have none. There is joy in knowing that your day is going to be a good one when you awake in the morning and is aware that your planner is there to carve out your day. After all, who wouldn’t that; as you work on yourself to improve and live the best life you aspire to have.

Communication Skills: Active Listening

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What is meant by active listening? It is the act of being fully aware and concentrating on what is being said. It is engaging your conversation partner or group in a positive manner. Active listening can be verbal or non-verbal.

The goal of active listening is to gain information and make a conscious effort to comprehend what someone else is saying. This way you are able to respond and look at things from a different view instead of judging.

Here’s an example of active listening.

How active listening affects the communication process

As a communication skill, active listening is an important part of the process. Paying attention demonstrates to the speaker that they are being heard and enhances your ability to absorb and relate information. Thus, one is able to become more engaging in a conversation because the information you would have consumed is used to formulate your ideas and consequent response. Active listening prevents you from missing vital information, identifying problems, resolving conflicts and gaining more knowledge. These are important aspects of the communication process and if not applied can ruin how the message is interpreted.

Below I share with you 3 characteristics of active listening

Reflection

This refers to hearing, understanding and analysing and thereafter sharing what was heard and understood. It requires absolute focus on the speaker. Avoid offering advice and making judgements and try to understand the message.

The reasons for reflection are to allow the speaker to hear what they are saying and for the listener to demonstrate to the speaker that their opinion is understood. Additionally, it encourages the speaker to focus on their message and emotions. See the video below for an example of reflective listening.

Self-Awareness

Concentration is essential for effective listening to take place. It allows you to dedicate your attention and therefore become more effective when listening.

Listening is an art that begins with the ability to listen to oneself. It is one of the most important skills that many people aren’t able to master. When a person is self-aware and possesses the ability to listen without misinterpreting and judging. Learning how to listen carefully and observing verbal and non-verbal cues, allows for appropriate feedback.

Paying Attention

I love to pay attention. Especially if the conversation is intellectually stimulating. One usually hear what others don’t hear. I am not blowing my trumpet. I pay attention to details and filter what I believe doesn’t matter.

Being attentive helps you to recall more details than usual. It is how you learn to filter data that is distracting in order to focus on the specific.

Active listening can be developed with practice. It requires time and patience, so it will not just happen. It is not only a thorough focus but involves verbal and non-verbal signs.

One should never attempt to interrupt with questions and comments, but allow the speaker to explore their thoughts and feelings. These can be understood as barriers to communication and should be avoided. Otherwise, the message can be distorted and misunderstood.

Listening Quotes
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